They're just not that into you.

Once again dabbling in other areas besides fashion, (yes, I dabble) I thought I'd make another post about something that's been on my mind recently.

Have you ever noticed how the people who give us the least attention, make the least effort to see us and are generally the least appreciative of our friendship are the ones we spend the most time thinking about? Even if the thoughts are merely just irritated thoughts of anger or frustration instead of longing or sadness, we're still spending our precious time with them on our minds; this observation formed the foundation of my question: why do we care the most about people who care the least? Answer: for me, it all goes back to the well-known phrase "you always want what you cannot have." Bizarre human logic means that our brains seem to be programmed with a function that only enables us to form a serious attachment to something when we realise we can't have it. Much the same as when a parent tells a child they can't have ice cream and the child suddenly becomes desperate for that ice cream, or a teenager is denied going to a party and suddenly that party is the most unmissable event of the year, when someone realises that their affections to another are not equally requited then suddenly that person becomes the most fascinating person they know; all of their efforts will be poured into attempts to capture the interest of the uninterested. However, this results in us not realising that we are wasting all of our energy on people who simply don't care, and in turn doing exactly the same thing to the people who are actually interested in us. It's a vicious circle of neglect really; we'll waste our time on people, who are ignoring us to waste their time on people, who are wasting their time on people, who simply don't care. Question: Why is that? Why do we not waste our time on the people who do care? Answer: We're blind. Blind to kindness. We only ever pick up on the negative, leaving us to neglect the good.

So I propose that we all open our eyes and notice who and what we've been neglecting in favour of the negative; we leave people who give us attention, affection and care trailing behind, as we trail after those who are doing the exact same thing to us. Instead I think we should all put our time and effort into reciprocating the kindness people give us, rather than trying to fix the negativity we receive.